Heartbroken

[kitsap_charles]

[Poll #397980]

Comments

[shaddyr]

If she has a cat who is having kittens, I'm sure it shan't be that much longer till the next ones come along. She really needs to build a bridge and get the hell over it.

[kitsap_charles]

Actually, all of her own cats are neutered. These were feral foundlings that appeared on her doorstep a month ago. But I agree, she needs to move on with her own four indoor cats and her unknown number of neutered ferals that come around for food.

[fimbrethil.livejournal.com]

Hmmm, sounds like she got enough of her own already. Is there any way to say that you are already attached to them? You might want to add that they have a better chance at long life if they are indoor cats instead of semi-ferals taking their chances, especially with coyotes around. I hope you get to keep them. That's wrong to change her mind like that.

[pondside.livejournal.com]

This is a situation that really sucks. I found a lovely standard poodle and then found the loving owner. Internally I wanted to scream "it's mine" and I hadn't been given the animal, just found it and cared for it.... so I can imagine how much more you want to scream "They're mine" you've bonded, they were given to you. They are part of your family...

I really think the answer is dependant upon how your self image would reconcile not cooperating with the previous owner. If you identify with them and will feel guilty about hurting them - then you might want to give them back. If you do not have an attachment to the previous owner, you can then internally/externally state that 1) they gave up ownership to you. 2) they have enough kitties already.

They did and they do, but that might still not do it for your internal tapes...

hugs either way - this situation sucks!

[jenkitty.livejournal.com]

*hugs* That sucks. That's like taking back a Christmas present because you'd rather keep it, after the paper had come off.

I hope you decided to keep the kittens.

[lorriejharris.livejournal.com]

According to River, she wants them back to give to someone else? Two words...Tough Noogies! >:(

[mrlogic.livejournal.com]

Contrary to the comment that I made, if she wants them back to give to someone else, then you shouldn't return them under any circumstances.

[beckyzoole.livejournal.com]

On the "give them back" side:
1. She gave them to you only today; your "bonding" cannot all that deep yet.
2. She has spent vet money and them, she has fed them for four weeks, she has cared for them for four weeks, thereby demonstrating a lot more "bonding" than you have had a chance to do yet.
3. She wants them back because she is concerned about their welfare.
4. There are lots and lots of feral kitties out there that need homes; if she does have a good alternate home for these guys then that means you can give a loving home to other kittens that need one.

On the "keep them" side:
1. You want these particular kitties.
2. She gave them to you, a verbal contact that is legal, and you have email evidence to back that up.
3. It's insulting to you that she is concerned about their welfare with you, as if you were going to feed them to snakes or use them for target practice.
4. She sounds a bit kooky with all those ferals she feeds, and might end up just letting them go feral again.

[bluemoonpnw.livejournal.com]

Keep them.
M

[riverheart.livejournal.com]

Moon, hon, did you say you had kittens available?

heartbroken too

[lovewithoutfear.livejournal.com]

I have 6 indoor cats and was feeding a stray, obviously I could not take her in, asked everywhere & could not find a home for her. My next door neighbor (who was feeding her before I was), took her to the pound Friday when I was out of town because Kitty kept sticking to her feet and nearly tripping her, she is an older lady and I can't really blame her. I called this morning because I thought of a few more leads of where to ask to place her, and the kitten is...gone. And not adopted, either. I would have been thrilled to find a good home for the kitty and never have asked for her back. There is such a thing as too many cats, which admittedly is what we have now!

Re: heartbroken too

[riverheart.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

That's terrible! To just have the kitten disappear like that, and not have closure, is heartwrenching.

Bob and I had that happen to us once, years ago, but we are pretty sure the kitten was kidnapped. This was The World's Cutest Kitten - I've never seen a cuter one in my life - and was almost certainly swiped by people who had stopped, earlier, to inquire about adopting him.