Sorry, the first thing that came to mind was Yoda, "You will be..." :)
*ducks the inevitable fwapping*
But yes, there are darn few of us, and I don't know anybody, who doesn't have at least a scar or two lurking under the surface.... but there are ways of getting those healed so that they're only little bitty white lines you show off, and not the mess they were when you got them.... and I know a few of the ways and the people that can help....
shared pain lessened, shared joy increased, shared ideas exploited... thus do we refute entropy and try to take over the world :)
Yes, you will be. Don't be disappointed if it doesn't fill as quickly as you think or wish it would. But it will, and you will be okay. You've got strength, and compassion, and are a pretty cool person to know. I'm glad we know you.
It's a good start, Wolfie, dear, but please, please please! This time, look within for wholeness, as the Charge tells us to do. Don't get seduced (again) by the idea that someone can complete you. Get whole and then get a partner. OK?
Hi, Kiwi...this sounds very much like what I asked of him last night.
We do not wish to complete Charles, but to complement him. He has all the time he needs, whatever amount of time that turns out to be, for healing and for re-finding his own Power and center; and we are here, and will be here, when he is ready. There is no need to rush.
There are three of us who consider Charles family: myself, jenkitty, and technoshaman. Each of us has been through difficult breakups, and knows first-hand that only the person involved can do the work, and that some of it can take quite a while.
We need him whole, Kiwi. We need him at his best so that he can truly be a part of this family. He needs himself whole, too: he needs to reconnect with who he is, to be in touch with his center, his power, his uniqueness and his own inner peace.
That is why I say that we have understanding, and time, and we are not going anywhere. In this, I speak for all three of us. He has a shieldbrother in Glenn, a friend - at the least - in Jen, and a beloved fiancee in me. What needs to happen, in terms of Charles' re-establishing his place within himself and within the world, can happen as it needs to.
We are building a family for a lifetime. However long Charles needs, he will have; we are here for him regardless of the time required.
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Date: 2002-12-04 06:38 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2002-12-04 07:06 am (UTC)*ducks the inevitable fwapping*
But yes, there are darn few of us, and I don't know anybody, who doesn't have at least a scar or two lurking under the surface.... but there are ways of getting those healed so that they're only little bitty white lines you show off, and not the mess they were when you got them.... and I know a few of the ways and the people that can help....
shared pain lessened, shared joy increased, shared ideas exploited...
thus do we refute entropy and try to take over the world :)
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Date: 2002-12-04 08:34 am (UTC)lisa, far from the dark days but able to remember
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Date: 2002-12-04 08:40 am (UTC)(no subject)
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Date: 2002-12-04 10:44 am (UTC)(no subject)
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Date: 2002-12-04 04:44 pm (UTC)We do not wish to complete Charles, but to complement him. He has all the time he needs, whatever amount of time that turns out to be, for healing and for re-finding his own Power and center; and we are here, and will be here, when he is ready. There is no need to rush.
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Date: 2003-01-20 11:00 am (UTC)There are three of us who consider Charles family: myself,
We need him whole, Kiwi. We need him at his best so that he can truly be a part of this family. He needs himself whole, too: he needs to reconnect with who he is, to be in touch with his center, his power, his uniqueness and his own inner peace.
That is why I say that we have understanding, and time, and we are not going anywhere. In this, I speak for all three of us. He has a shieldbrother in Glenn, a friend - at the least - in Jen, and a beloved fiancee in me. What needs to happen, in terms of Charles' re-establishing his place within himself and within the world, can happen as it needs to.
We are building a family for a lifetime. However long Charles needs, he will have; we are here for him regardless of the time required.